Women crave for pillow talk after sex

Women crave for pillow talk after sex

    American psychologists have found that women whose partners finish off a night of passion by immediately turning over and nodding off are left feeling insecure and craving affection. They said cuddling and talking after sex is a crucial way for a couple to express their commitment to each other. In relationship terms, they say it could be just as important as what happens before sex, or even the act itself.
    For the result, they questioned 456 heterosexual people, who completed online surveys about their sleep patterns with their partner. Author Dr Daniel Kruger said they found the participants’ desire for emotional bonding, affection and communication was greatest when their partner fell asleep first. This was found in both men and women but previous studies have shown men invariably fall asleep first.
    “When their partner fell asleep first, they craved that bonding time, for expressions of affection and endearment, and felt it was lacking,” said Dr Kruger.
    While this study did not confirm that men were more likely to fall asleep first, he said two of his previous studies and other research suggested it was true.
    A study last year linked this to production of the hormones oxytocin and prolactin which create a sedative, or ‘roll over and snore’ effect in men after making love. But Dr Kruger and his co-author Susan Hughes believe there are evolutionary, as well as chemical reasons for it. They suggest falling asleep before their partner may be a non-conscious way for men to ‘foreclose’ any conversations about commitment.